Hello everyone, I'm Tian Jing.

If one day, your child asks you: What is masturbation. What would you say?

For many parents, sex education is a mystery. On the one hand, we do know that sex education is important, and on the other hand, it is very difficult to speak out.

What age should I have for sex education? In the face of children's unbridled curiosity, how to face? How do I answer my child's questions about masturbation, penis, etc.?

We've collected "good news" about sex education around the world, some of which directly introduce actors from A/V, some of which print sex education on toilet paper... These novel ways have opened up new ideas for many people and learned how to better educate their children about sex.

Let's think about this scenario:

The love action movie actor you searched for suddenly appeared in front of your house one day! Not only that, but it's your completely uninformed mother who opens the door.

The bee-waisted actor also told your mom, "We're here because your kids often go online to watch us fight." "

The most painful social death I can imagine is not the disclosure of pornhub's personal history, but the impartiality that happens to be seen by my mother.

And that's the creative ad new Zealand scrolls through on TV!

In the film, the mother's glass is not stable: "So, my son looks at you online..."

"Yes! You know, in his notebook, "The actor took the call," on the iPad, on the game console, his phone, your phone, smart TV, projector..."

"We usually do it for adults, but your son is still a kid... He may not know much about men and women. We perform without even informed consent and go straight to work. But in real life it's not like that..."

The values of the two adult film actors were so good that I wanted to give a standing ovation on the spot, it turned out to be a fake car, and the video was the official New Zealand production of "Network Is Also Reality" children's sex education public service short film. During the outbreak, remind parents to guide their children to the Internet healthy.

New Zealand Children's Sex Education Public Interest Short Film "Network Also Reality"

The four short films, which focus on pornography, online bullying, children's cult videos and paedophilia, wait until someone else comes to the door before parents realize what their children do online every day.

However, parents did not split their heads to cover their faces to the child a skunk, but chose to take a deep breath, calm down, calmly with the child reason. The first half of the second I was lucky, and now I'm so red-eyed that I want to take my parents home.

Child sex education is a big problem that can't be raised year after year, and New Zealand has done a great deal this time. In fact, there are many countries for children's sex education issues to hand over too high a score.

This proposition, even appeared in the stereotype of the scment, curry flavor, no women's bathroom on the road in India.

India's 2016 sex education skit, "Father and Son's Sex Talk," caught fire on YouTube, with a 9.0 rating still high, from outside the wall to inside the wall.

The 7-year-old Indian boy in the play is simply the ultimate nightmare of his parents, curious about the grind of the shed, the first episode came a big shot: "Dad, what is masturbation?" "Do girls masturbate, too?" "Dad, do you masturbate?"

Dad wanted to look around him, but thought: This has become his father's face? So he began to create his own lively metaphor, opened a serious father-son chat.

The synthesise is a five-episode, ten-minute episode focused on solving a sex problem, from "what's masturbation," "How do kids come about," "Condoms are candy," to "What's menstruation," and "What's gay?"

Indian dad this metaphorical master, created "male genitalia is the data line, female genitalia is usb interface, condoms are like computer anti-virus software, physiological period like regularly sent automatic mail" into the sex education universe, I look at an adult are shot.

Also on fire on YouTube is NRK's "Newton-pubertet" (translated as "Newton-Pubertet"), which is credited with the strongest sex education in history between the ages of 8 and 12.

The so-called strongest, strong on the real person (half-naked) in this play directly, hand-to-hand explain "chest and penis sexual development," "hair growth and acne," "menstruation and semen," "sexual desire, kissing, masturbation and sex" ... A change in the past involved in sexual topics still hugging, itching boots.

It looks amazing, and the censorship system I've learned for years is flashing red with beep alarms.

But NRK is actually Norway's largest television station, funded by the state. Although the scene is direct, the series avoids language, posture, and posture that contain sexual innuendo.

They invited 29-year-old Dr.Line Jansrud, M.D., to chair, and if it wasn't for the pubic hair, it was really like a funny science film: "Tell you how thick pubic hair enhances sexual attractiveness..."

The avant-garde drama, which was immediately sought after by netizens around the world and caused controversy on Facebook, is still available for viewing on YouTube.

By contrast, the European Standards for Sexual Education would be relatively open, Germany would be open to diversity, and child sex education would become a curriculum for reshaping children's sexual psychology and morality.

We adults don't agree on diversity and wait-and-see, and some countries have taught it to our children.

Sexual taboos are more common in East Asia than in Europe.

Japan is such a contradictory country: on the one hand, street-end sexual innuendo is everywhere, on the other hand, it is quite sexually repressive, involving sexual assault and rape when the secret is not as deep.

The state is relatively conservative in its sex education curriculum, and in 2018 the Tokyo Board of Education even suggested that sex, contraception and artificial abortion were inappropriate in secondary school textbooks.

If the school doesn't teach, the folk keep up. Several female college students in Japan have come up with new ideas - they have printed sex education on toilet paper.

Sex education toilet paper, the sexual knowledge divided cartoons painted on paper towels, for primary school students to develop, including physiological structure, sexual mechanisms, sexual violence how to refuse and how to help themselves.

The idea for the original female college student, Yoshihiko Heda, stems from the first sexual harassment she encountered in high school.

Don't know the middle-old uncle said to her: "You have big chest", said ready to touch, although Hetian successfully escaped, but the fear of the time lingered.

In her view, the target group of sex education toilet paper is people who are negative about sex education, they will not take the initiative to look for information online.

△ Intimacy seeks consent, and when the other person says no, he or she disagrees

And toilet toilet paper, just placed in the school, wine house, public toilet these are the most private, unique reading environment, become a perfect toilet reading for teaching.

In fact, our country has also appeared in children's sex education-related teaching materials, three years ago triggered a heated discussion.

"Precious Life - A Reader of Sexual Health Education for Primary School Students" designed by Beiscil University, several screenshots of the crazy network, public opinion questioned the content sensitive, the scale is too large.

At that time, the response of the University was: "Thank you for participating in the discussion and looking forward to all the reading materials from all walks of life, working together to improve and strive for the goal of integrating sexual and reproductive health education into the compulsory education curriculum." "

A petition to "integrate child sex education into the compulsory education curriculum" has been mentioned since 2008.

Sex education in China often resorts to time, "growing up slowly understand." And curiosity is like Pandora's Box, although sexual knowledge must come later, if parents can not get the answer here, the child will find another way.

As a result, boys get sex from adult movies, and girls get it from their boyfriends. This creates a bad logical closed loop, do we really want the quality of the little yellow flakes to become the child's life mentor?

Not only is the "sexual taboo" passed from the last generation to the next generation, but it is even more frightening that without sexual knowledge, we do not know what sexual assault is.

Wang Zhenhua, a former director of Shanghai Newtown Holdings, was sentenced to five years in prison for indecently assaulting a 9-year-old girl; a female college student who was sexually assaulted by her father's colleagues 20 years ago and tried to commit suicide, and finally filed a case to be told that the legal prosecution period had passed; a 13-year-old girl from Blue Sky Elementary School was sexually assaulted by four boys aged 12/13, and the male students involved were not prosecuted after they were under the age of 14; and Bao Weiming left the hot search for two and a half months...

On the one hand, the necessity of children's sex education is imminent, on the other hand, there is no space for public sex education, but there are still many professional institutions in the country have done a variety of popular science work.

For example, the Guangdong Green Bud Rural Women's Development Foundation developed an animated film for children between the ages of 6 and 12, "Ding Ding Bean Growth Story". The 17-episode animation is the most complete child sex education animation in the country and has now been viewed by more than 1.7 million people.

The introduction of physiological knowledge is vivid and accurate, such as how to bathe properly, girls' menstruation and boys' legacy. Talk about sexual assault and tell your child how to protect themselves.

Most valuablely, the animation has a very advanced gender awareness, emphasizing gender equality while inclusive boys can wear skirts and girls can be pilots.

In addition to animation, there are many excellent children's sex education drawings in China: Where I Come from, My Precious Body, Secrets That Can Never Be Kept...

The sooner children have sex education, the better. But said so much, really put up the sleeves to the practice link, or feel a headache, no way to start, for this, I would like to share a few suggestions:

▌First, it is necessary to stage sex education for children's age.

 Three-year-olds and 13-year-olds are not the same language. And the previous introduction of children's sex education works are clearly marked the applicable age.

Hu Jiawei, a child sex education teacher with 8 years of experience (and founder of the children's sex education institution "Protecting Bean"), has published a practical operating guide, "Important Sex, Affecting Children's Lives", 41 common educational problems analysis.

This book not only divides age and gives children real sex education in a scientific way, but also includes many of the awkward challenges that parents encounter in a question-and-answer session.

★ Q1:0 to 3 years old, as the first golden period of sex education, parent-child bath problems how to do?

During this period, children enter an important stage of self-awareness, and they want to understand their bodies and be aware of the nuances between people. Rather than avoiding and scolding children, it is better to think of parent-child bathing as a very good sex education atmosphere, and to tell the story of the differences between men and women, the physiological structure of children and men.

★ Q2:4 to 6 years old have a special "hobby" how to do?

Masturbation is a normal physiological activity and does not have to worry too much. However, it may also reflect the child's mental state, perhaps more learning, games, peer contact to obtain spiritual satisfaction, will not continue to masturbate frequently.

★ Q3: How do I answer the role of condoms to adolescents?

Condoms are also called condoms, and their function is not only as simple as contraception, but also to prevent the spread of disease and AIDS. If your child is particularly curious, you may want to open a condom to see what it looks like, and you can also use bananas to demonstrate how to use condoms.

Teaching a child to use condoms is not sexual instigation. You can inform yourself in advance of your attitude and advice: by the end of puberty, your body is immature and having sex too early can be harmful to your body.

The need for age-phase also lies in the fact that I've seen a French sex education drama, Farts And His Pit Dads, which is young and has no taboos about what's being discussed. The first episode encourages men to explore the backcourt, not without being bold.

Farts are graded at 18 plus, so in fact this is a sex education drama facing adult children, there is no shortage of and farts and other funny elements, if you have reached adulthood, you can take it yourself.

▌Secondly, children's sex education, there are questions must answer is very important.

Many times, traditional parents encounter sexual problems, it is easy to choose to avoid talking about, or give the wrong answer: "You picked it up by the side of the road." Children will therefore learn the wrong idea, sex is taboo, can only avoid. (From the Monk of Sexual Studies)

This thought is to protect the child's childish truth, in fact, it is likely to just keep the child's ignorance, avoid can not solve any problems, it is better to discuss the matter naturally. Only correct cognition can avoid being a victim or even a victim.

▌At the same time, sex education chooses to use accurate scientific terms to avoid semantic ambiguous words with sexual innuendo.

The more ambiguous the semantics, the stronger the taboo. Using vague words does not avoid embarrassment, but creates more embarrassment. It is important for sex education to remove as much of a child's shame about sex as possible. The use of "penis" and "vagina" in good light conveys an attitude that sex is scientific and healthy.

Anyone who has seen the movie Furnace knows that the harm caused to a child by sexual assault may accompany him throughout his life and become a nightmare that will never be erased in his life.

Children's sex education is not only about understanding physiology, but also about preventing possible harm.

The sun can't shine forever, but I hope the children can live in the sun and have a brilliant childhood.

Editor: Child

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