Graduation Specials . . Four years in college, how do I improve my expressability?
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From an young time, I envy people with good expression ability, whether reading books or watching language programs, and when I see those vivid and powerful languages, I can't help but stay a little longer. At the same time, I put this ability down to being as helpful as God, far from myself, somewhat inextricable. While envious, while away.
It is said that every person in his life has a few "discovered" their own moments, then I "discovered" that they have a little ability to express this thing occurred in the university. And the starting point for this change is in high school.
It's interesting to say, I'll be a representative of the Chinese class. There is a teacher to Li Qingzhao's "Drunk Flower Yin", hope that some students stand up and read aloud, if my memory is conclusive, then he should look forward to looking at me several times, I did not come from the ground and the desire to read the heart to dry, and finally read this link quickly flashed. I felt that his look at me was suddenly disappointing, more serious than blame.
Well, maybe I'm sentimental, but that's really the starting point for my change, and even I think all the language attempts that followed were the guilt of that time.
I think everyone is eager to pay attention, eager to bloom, but then I do not want to admit it. Why don't you admit it? I do not know, also did not ask themselves, think that life is two points of the line, and then maintain their own as far as possible not to make mistakes on the people set it. But in college I came to another city and had to rebuild the order of life. At that time, I wanted to run, even longing for difficulties, eager to get through the wind and frost quickly, to make up for my thinness and weakness.
My approach to this is - toss. College these years, can not say how many books read, but can say how many libraries.
I often get up early, catch a subway train, go to a library until I close the door and come back, so I got lost and walked to the abandoned factory building, the dark atmosphere of no one scared me enough. Part of it is due to the fact that I don't like to look at maps, get off at any station, and observe people: the bus, the exhibition hall, the airport, the library... It's been a lot of fun. At that time I felt like a ghost wandering over the city, free and light.
In fact, we usually don't know who we are, need to interact with the outside world, and sometimes bump. But the iron walls of the copper walls, built from big ideas, also created cracks as a result of such impacts.
Of course, what I did in the first time had nothing to do with expression, but they enriched my life experience and made me start to break free of the tasteless image of a good girl in my head. Before not used to public expression, and then I came against their own sex: recitation, presiding, crosstalk, debate ... Try it one by one.
As it turns out,Everything that helped in the long run was never happy at the time.At that time can be embarrassed me, every time I need to express in public, before taking the stage I will throw a fist. But no way, dig your own pit, always have to jump?
It reminds me of an article I read about an insurance king. At first, door-to-door door-knocking to promote let him extremely mad, because he always did not know what to say, and what to say will make the two sides not embarrassed. When he finds that he is thinking too much about what to say, people hesitate more, and he changes his strategy:Knock on the door first and think about it。 It was this that pushed him to make a trial-and-error move forward and become an insurance king step by step.
I read a story at the time, but now I have a deep understanding that there is never something ready, we need to be in the "Learn to read in reading and learn to write in writing"。 The same is true of expression, as long as we do not set the entry threshold for "learning to express" this matter too high. Expressions don't just mean prepared speeches or articles published in newspapers, they can happen at any time: hit your paragraph while reading, an attractive slogan hanging outside a restaurant, a gold sentence that pops up to admire you when you talk to a friend... These are the moments when expression is generated.
Change doesn't pop out suddenly. Therefore, the mountain high water long, more wrestling bar, the worst is just "did not get the desired results" just.
In high school, I listened to Liu Wei's speech many times, and the university saw her
Explain the history of school
Go on the road before you meet your companion Completion is more important than perfection
My attempts at shame quickly paid off handsomely: I signed up for a competition that made it clear that I wanted to show myself.
Martin Seligman, an active psychologist, believes that "achievement" is an important factor in happiness, and in my understanding, "achievement" does not refer to nihilistic success, but to finding yourself in the inside. The six months of the competition gave me the opportunity to make the most of myself.
It was a warm time, like the sun just good. I met a teacher. She and many teachers are not the same, as if nothing to teach me, tutoring competition is and I Tiannanhai North to chat, take me to the university of the elderly lectures, to see her family, friends;
Through the teacher's eyes, I saw a kind, fearless, full of flash point of their own. But.The truth is, when I was praised, I didn't show a state that exactly matched the teacher's assessment, she just patiently and sincerely pierced the fog and pointed to the place I wanted to go and said, Look, you've been there.
How can I be so good at listening to these positive, positive encouragements in those moments of up or down? Before I became who I wanted to be, I really believed that I was that kind of person.Believe."It permeates all my actions.
Half a year has passed, the game has come, the order has been drawn, the game is over. This long, big game so quickly left my life, I just feel lost.
When I received the first prize, I was not so happy, sitting on the floor of my bedroom, just feeling that life was like a body, lost its center of gravity.
No wonder Shakespeare said five hundred years ago.Many things in the world, the pursuit of time of interest is always stronger than the enjoyment of the time of interest."Honestly, the joy of the result was only a short one, and the award wasn't enough to continue to provide a steady stream of happiness. That's it.Wishes come true before good want, wishes come true after not satisfied"So it's really not a chicken soup to focus on the process, it's to make sure we enjoy the maximum pleasure."
It's also possible that I've recognized myself, with the mentality of "I'm going to the competition as a first prize" rather than "getting the first prize through the competition" (that's a shame!). ), so the results are also expected.
The real strength of the game is that since then, Xiaohua teacher and become good friends, almost did nothing. Happy things, sad things, worried things, shy things, I can honestly tell her. We talk and then go back to the broad life, feelingIt was as if I had just stood in the forest and breathed a breath of air. Xiaohua teacher's life energy is very abundant, reflecting the world around her, and I was lucky to get a piece of the pie.
And the teachers have quite a victory will be the teacher meaning of the photo, hip-hop
Xiaohua teacher and I
Magnolia Poems "Kill Qing" this day
、 On the day of writing the first article, Xiaohua teacher gave me the warmest encouragement and praise as usual
My theory of time relativity
Four years on, the blows and obstacles in the process of "expression" have become a small part of my memory. And those happy moments have become very long, very conspicuous: how I was preparing with a force, the heart pinched a small fist in the display ... Those pictures are clearly visible, exuding the soft luster of the memory filter, become part of me. This is probably the embodiment of the relativity of time in me.
I've also come to understand how illusory it is to be at your best at all times (like the shows we see being edited) and there's no magic in the world.It is true to feel the joy of creation and discovery only if you put your heart and time into what you really want to do。 Even in the process, anxiety and waiting are the norm.
It would be better to think of anything as learning. Recall our small and middle school study career, understanding knowledge will be in place in one step? Will there be no wrong questions in the weekly exam? In this way, every little problem encountered is rationalized: do a good job is learned, do not do well is to learn experience, how will there be harvest, our hearts about the "sense of access" this part will be satisfied, do things more powerful. As a result, anxiety has not been alleviated, but can be said to be gone, haha. The opportunity to learn is so precious, how can it be wasted on pointless complaints?
What's more, I firmly believe that it's not "anything that can be done" that is growing. The stirring emotions are more alive than accepting everything that exists without reservation. Anger, depression, uplifting, panic these emotions are more real people feel alive, if calmly accept everything is called maturity, then I would rather be a little later mature.
Above.All opinions and opinions allow rebuttal, and whoever contradicts me is right (no).Haha, if a person can believe in their own philosophy of life and continue to prove themselves, continue to get happiness, it is great, do not care whether it is contrary to the views of others.
Along the way, I met a lot of self-driven people, elders, peers, they all haveContinue to live up to your beliefs"The precious qualities that help me unreservedly.Many moments, I was wrapped in a strong feeling, was ignited, and thus became unique, to experience the beauty and bloom of being born.There will always be people lining up around the world with number plates critical of you, but that doesn't matter.It is love that makes us strong, love that makes us armor.
The game is played
The party host, Bi, took the best pictures in limited conditions
In the work seminar and sharing sessionbe a guest of reading aloud
《How to build your confidence and spark it in others》
In fact, in the process of learning to express, the exploration of self-confidence is limited to their own experience, but also often question the principles summed up from the personal experience when universal, until I met this TED.
The author regards self-confidence as an important source of creativity and believes that the composition of self-confidence is divided into three parts:permission、communityAnd.curiosity。 Think.Self-confidence is born to allow, grow in groups, and enhance curiosity.
It's very much in line with my experience. In this era, all the hard information can be instantly overturned, to keep their inner bottom is the most important. Self-confidence is as important as being your own teacher, becoming your own mom and dad, and being your own friend all the time. So I highly recommend that you see it.
Well, having said so much, in fact, "expression ability" is not just how to make sentences so simple, it is a more complex and sophisticated system, involving experience, perception, thinking, temperament ... It's best to add a little frustration. What happened to me was also very small.
It's just that a lot of times, I'm full, and sometimes I'm lonely, but more often, I'm determined.I instinctively felt that since these things had happened, and one thing had worked on me, it was amazing to change and reconstruct my perception of the world and my own understanding of selves, and it was worth recording.
Writing is a kind of combing, thinking and recording. We use it to relive love and warmth, to comfort regret and loss. And it's clearer thatLife is not because of a little broken things is not good, it is best to be a long-termist, believe that growth and learning is a lifetime of homework.
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